In the world of love, it doesn’t matter how much you pay or sacrifice, because ultimately, the gifts and sacrifices are just a way to make yourself happy and those who use their gifts and sacrifices to control the other are acting shamefully. Some people, after the other has had a change of heart, on account of the gifts and sacrifices they made, will brandish a knife or throw acid at their face: this is unforgivable crime!
The gifts and sacrifices made in the world of love cannot be protected by law. It’s like this: you’ve fallen in love with someone, and to make them happy, you’ve spent a lot of money, you’ve bought them clothes and cosmetics, of invited them to eat all sorts of good things. If you’re wealthy, you might even have bought them a house or a luxury car. When the relationship is over, do you want these things you gave the other back? Sorry, there is no legal contract that protects you. And if you force the other to return everything you gave them, you even have the law against you.
For other people, what they give may not be material or actual wealth. What they give is things like a life-long ‘heart-pain’, like carving the name of their beloved in their arm with a knife, like a number of scars on their arms from cigarette burns, made when they committed to the beloved. This kind of masochistic behaviour, in the end, can hardly qualify as ‘a gift’, because ultimately, they did all this because it gave them pleasure in their hearts. And if someone uses this kind of ‘gift’ to force their counterpart, not only is it shameful, but it’s also comical.
In essence, the gifts and sacrifices made in the world of love, are made on the one hand to make you happy, and on the other hand so that the other will voluntarily give you tangible or intangible things that you desire. You can only let the other give you voluntarily, you cannot force them. It’s like you think you’ve already given up your heart to the other, but you cannot get the heart of the other by force. This is the only way to get to the heart of the other person: finding ways for them to voluntarily give it to you.
As we all know, the law only protects a few gifts and sacrifices within marriage. So why does the law not protect the gifts and sacrifices that happen in the world of love? Because as you’re giving, you’re already getting a lot in return, for instance, you’ve felt relaxed, and even if you feel pain, it’s a kind of pleasant pain, a kind of pain that many people yearn after. And as for other rewards that you desire, you can only hope for the other to give them voluntarily, you cannot request them by force.