What is your salary – 被问收入的态度 – English

1.先讲一个小故事

事情是这样的,身边有个女孩子,算是极好的朋友。早前一段时间,辞去工作,在家里休整了月余时间。

在她刚刚休息的那段时间里,身边朋友就问:“为啥好好工作就不要了。”(女孩子的福利待遇在北京也算可以。)女孩子的回答很简单:“就是想好好休息下,前段时间太累了。”

身边的朋友大部分表示理解,毕竟工作是做不完的,身体才是第一。而有一些,却紧催女孩赶紧去找工作。他们的理由同样很简单:“在家休息,如何面对帝都的重重生活压力呢!”
女孩子笑了笑,继续休整。

最近,女孩休息调整完毕,新做了一份工作。大部分朋友纷纷送来了祝福。而同样有一些朋友,见面还没聊几句话,就直接问女孩:“你现在收入多少啊?”

女孩说了一下收入,其实薪资不算低。而那些问的朋友,则冷冷地说:“怎么才要那么一点钱呢?”

女孩沉默了。

2.我的态度

你是否有过这样的经历?

对于上面的事情,我想起了一句话:很多人只关心你飞的高不高,却从不关心你飞的累不累。

当然了,问你收入的也有真正关心你的人。这个,我一点不否认、

但是被人直接问到:“嗨,你现在收入多少?”,且毫无任何征兆。甚至都不问你工作适应了没有,心情开心不开心,压力大不大等等。对于这种问候,相信很多人都会排斥。

对于这种“单刀直入”的问候。一开始,我是拒绝的,现在也是。

我的理由也很简单:

在收入低的时候,我拒绝;因为我的收入是真的低。此时,我在乎的是面子。

在收入尚可的时候,我依旧拒绝;因为收入高了,心态也就变了。钱嘛,是赚不完的,此刻身体,爱情,亲情,友情等等才是核心。

而对于那种带着“真实关心”的问候,我则不会拒绝。

好,就这么多了。

1. Let’s start with a short story

It goes like this: there is this girl, whom I would consider a very good friend. She quit her job a while ago and took a few months off.

“Why quit such a good job?” a friend asked her at the beginning of her hiatus. Her income and benefits being considered quite decent by Beijing’s standards, the girl answered simply: “Just want to have a good rest. I have been working too hard.”

Most of her friends were sympathetic because they know that there is always more work so looking after yourself should be the priority. Others, on the other hand, urged the girl to find another job quickly, and their reason was equally simple: “How do you expect to handle the pressure of living in this ‘imperial capital’ of a city by sitting on your butt!”

Smiling, she continued with her break.

She recently came out of her hiatus and took a new job, for which most of her friends sent their congratulations. But, like before, some friends, shortly into the conversation, asked her bluntly: “How much do you make?”

She gave them the figure, which wasn’t low, but was met with a cold comment: “How come it’s so little?”

The girl fell silent.

2. My thoughts

Have you ever had a similar experience?

The story above reminds me of these words: many only care about how high you fly, but not how hard you do it.

Of course, I do not deny that among those who ask about your income are people who truly care for you, but I believe many will be opposed to the unsubtle greeting of “Hi, how much do you make?” without any forewarning, or so much as a concern for whether you have settled into your work or whether you are happy or under any pressure.

I have always rejected such “straightforward” greetings. I still do.

My reason is simple:

I rejected it when I wasn’t making much, because my income was really low, and at that point it was a matter of face.

I still rejected it when I earned a decent living, for by then I had been in a different mind set where I thought there was no end to money-making, and therefore what really mattered were such things as health, love, family, and friends.

But I will not reject genuine hellos.

That’s it. That’s all I have to say.

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