Tag / relationships
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不要和穷人谈恋爱 – Don’t date poor people
A discussion between two girl friends uncovers harsh expectations – if you’re poor, you will not find love.
January 2, 2016 -
为什么男人喜欢我这样丑女人 – Why do men like an ugly woman like me…
A one-paragraph personal interrogation from secret-sharing website shudong: why would a plain woman attract so much sexual attention from men?
August 3, 2015 -
喜欢一个人已经五年了 – I’ve liked a person for five years…
Shudong is an anonymous depository of short personal texts about personal life, family trouble and romantic relationships. This very short piece gives us a direct insight into Chinese college romance. (If you like this kind of writing, have a look at these short stories by Zhang Jiajia)
February 23, 2015 -
我妈有外遇了… – My mother had an affair…
An anonymous post from ShuDong: a 15 year old discovers that their mother has an affair, witnesses a scene of family violence, and shares their sense of loss and confusion.
December 17, 2014 -
我是女生,19岁, – I’m a 19 year old woman…
This young woman, 19, in college, shares an anonymous message on ShuDong – TreeHole. A relationship with this man, 3 years older, a proposal she refused for it came too soon, feelings of mutual love. Direct insights into the soul of a young person in China today.
December 8, 2014 -
性欲望及其界限 – Sexual desire and its boundaries
Li Yinhe is China’s most famous gender and sexuality theorist. Her writings celebrate sexuality as a source of pleasure and personal growth, while insisting on ethical considerations. This piece offers a proposal for delimiting socially appropriate and healthy sexual behaviour.
November 28, 2014 -
为什么爱情世界里的付出和牺牲不受法律保护? – Why is there no legal protection in the world of love?
Love comes with much sacrifice and dedication – of time, emotions, and multiple gifts. Yet if the feeling ends, there is no legal protection for the sad lovers – why, asks Ding Xiaoyun.
July 18, 2014 -
时髦男女“婚无能” – Fashionable men and women are ‘unfit for marriage’
Why is marriage increasingly unpopular among Chinese youth – and should we develop ‘marriage training’ models?
March 20, 2014 -
当人们谈离婚的时候,人们在谈些什么 – What do people talk about when they talk about divorce
How did the media present the divorce of celebrities Faye Wong and Li Yapeng? This post offers a reflection on contemporary Chinese expectations of marriage and happiness.
January 29, 2014 -
晨报问答:我的女友是个寄生虫 – Morning Q&A: my girlfriend is a parasite
Wise reply to a difficult question: how to get rid of a parasitic girl-friend? This text explores dysfunctional financial relationships and emotional abuse in China.
April 22, 2013