My girlfriend and I were together for over a year, but because of our different characters, we agreed amicably to part. My girlfriend was from a different city, but I was a local. When we were together she always lived at my place. After we split up, she said she didn’t have any place to go for the time being, so she temporarily continued to live at my place, but we slept in different rooms. Now we have broken up for almost a month, but she still hasn’t left and this makes me feel very awkward. With the exception of no longer having an intimate relationship, ordinarily it seems that we are just like a young couple; go to work, finish work, come home, cook… this kind of relationship makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t have any feelings for her any more. At the moment, providing shelter for her completely comes from sympathy, but getting rid of her is impossible. I don’t know what she’s thinking. Does she really have no place to go? Or does she want to take advantage of me? Or perhaps she still has feelings for me. It’s a little unclear.
After reading you’re letter, I also want to tell a break-up story I heard. The person who told the story was a girlfriend of mine, and the lead actress was her room mate. At the time, this young lady got herself a remarkable boyfriend, a quintessential white-collar worker, with a considerable monthly income. After, because their personalities were unsuitable for each other, the guy proposed to split-up. However, the girl wasn’t willing to, as she never had a job before. When talking things over, the guy agreed to give her 4000 dollars each month for her living costs, and reimbursed her clothing and rent costs etc. This situation persisted for 2 years, during which the girl didn’t find any work, and so relied on the guy for support. She was also determined not to find work, and leech off the guy. Then, he got a new girlfriend. Finally, there was no way he could tolerate this girl, and so decided to give her some money to make her let go of him. After the girl received this money, she got a new boyfriend, who was also rich. Thereupon, she moved from Beijing to Shanghai. This story does have an ending. After a short while in Shanghai, her new boyfriend dumped her. She had no choice but to return to Beijing, where she gave her ex-boyfriend a call. That soft man finally had become smart, he had changed his mobile number, moved place, cut off all contact and disappeared into the abyss. Afterwards, with regards to the girl, I have no idea whether she was able to get hold of him.
In fact, in this world there are some people whose nature is 「parasitic」. From a crowd, they are able to recognise at a glance a host to prey on, who they will grab and never let go of. They are also the best at knowing how to not let a host escape, leave emotions hanging in the air, and harbour their guilty conscience amongst other methods. Regarding this kind of girl, I don’t want to further criticize. Everything in this world pairs up, one hand can’t clap itself, so who can you criticize? Parasitic girls will certainly have ex-host boyfriends. When faced with a couple like this, family and friends try to advise, but often waste several years doing so. After writing me this letter, I can only say one thing; an ill-fated relationship is still a relationship. You want to ask me about my break-up method, I certainly have one, but you need to let go of your heart. The following will tell you the only effective way of dealing with this:
Whatever the parasite, it hasn’t become one due to infatuation. Introducing her to a new host will do.